Friday, December 21, 2012

Bridezillas.... a Product of our Current-Day Society



I didn't think it would happen, but I believe I'm there. I've become a bridezilla. Ok, I may be going a little dramatic here, but as a first-time bride I am just now becoming enlightened to the scam that is 'the wedding'. I knew from friends complaining or segments on tv discussing ways to save on getting married, but I really did not realize how you can walk into a normal store and mention the word wedding and the price immediately increases four times its normal value!

I pride myself on being a deal-finder and a somewhat frugal shopper. The goal is to find the best quality item for the cheapest possible price, right? I rarely pay full-price for anything - hitting up stores prepared with a coupon. I even have multiple apps on my phone that help give me good deals. But, wedding changes everything... going cheap can very easily mean going extremely tacky.

My first introduction came when seeking out venues to house our reception. I actually work in a location that is notorious for putting on weddings. It was the first venue I priced out and I scoffed saying, "I'm not getting married here, that price is crazy - I can totally find a better deal than that!" A few weeks later after endless hours of searching I was extremely humbled and appalled but the reality of what we were facing. We looked at hotels, barns, resorts, bars, restaurants, and everything in between. Suffice to say, we are now booked at the place where I work after realizing what a good deal they actually are; they don't charge for the location so all your money goes into your food and set-up and at the same time they do everything so you don't have to worry. Not having a wedding planner, this proved to be more what we were looking for.

Earlier that week Chad and I visited this barn about 40 min outside of Madison. It was beautiful spread out on this vast countryside on a horse-farm. There were rolling hills, luscious trees, even a gravel path and the option to add a horse drawn carriage if you so desired. Let's book it! Then we get out of the car to check it out. We are literally blown away - it's so open that there is this constant breeze that rolls over those hills. "This wind is typical" says our guide. Are you kidding? I'm not one for being prissy, but getting my hair done in these circumstances would be a waste because it would be destroyed after about 5 min. And the barn? Basically a wooden box that turns into a massive wind-tunnel once you open the doors. It's base price? $3500. Exqueeze me? That's over 25% of our budget and we haven't even fed anyone yet. Oh, and we haven't even sat everyone yet? Yep - luxuries like chairs and tables tack on even more cost because that price doesn't include anything. That's just for the use of the barn. And this place is booked for the next year and a half? Who are these people out there paying this?! And people actually spend this to get married? And there are people who get married more than once? I don't know how they do it - I guess I'm too cheap!

Reality ad sunk in. This is NOT going to be easy. Here we are working to start our lives together to do crazy things like 'buy a house' and 'have a family'. I think I have a decent job. I don't spend frivolously. I don't go on crazy vacations around the world. We live within our means - so I thought. So, tacking on the price of a wedding and the reality of what people really pay was quite a shock. We still are working to have a wedding near our goal. I anticipate our final price will spike a bit more than we first had hoped. The best way to keep the wedding cheap? Cut the guest list. This really isn't an option since having our friends and family there was one thing that was important to us. Plus, the idea of a nice sit-down dinner has been something we always wanted. Feeding people (and allowing them a spot to sit) proves to be the other really expensive cost so we are keeping our guest list to 150 max.

I've come to realize that the wedding isn't just the one day. It's the whole time leading up to and culminating with that one day. So, if you are going to put so much time and energy into all the details and spend so much money, you may enjoy all the time up until the wedding. If you make it a conscious choice - I think it really can be enjoyable. So long as you can let things go and just be happy with only investing a the few things that actually matter, then the wedding is do-able. Our biggest investment at this point is in our photographer. That was something we didn't want to skimp on. Other than that, I've really learned to let go and ask the question "is that something I'm really going to look back and think I could have lived without? One luxury that I've already come to let go on was a sort of 'add on'. I grew to really love the idea of having a photo booth because I loved the idea of having a guest book with lots of funny photos of our family and guests. But, at the end of the day is it worth it for the price of $750? For a book? with pictures? After we already are having a pretty great photographer? no. 

So, back to bridezilla. No, I'm not terrorizing and crying because I want all the flowers in Madison at my wedding. My requests are actually quite simple, I think. It's just the reality of it all and the time it takes to seek out the best option for the best price. Oh - and everything is negotiable, which I'm not a huge fan of. I hate haggling, but it's how the industry runs. All the prices are SO inflated, that you are expected to talk town to a semi-ridiculous price. There are those amazing deals, but a lot of them lack the luster of a wedding. Say you get a hall for cheap, but it's just a hall so you have to add piece-meal all the other little bits to make it nice and what you would like. Then you have to be sure that everyone comes through for you on the big day. We ultimately went a little more up front for our venue because we figured we would save in the long-run not having to deal details like renting chairs and setting up tables. Unless you can afford a wedding planner, it's really the only option now-a-days unless you want to be dealing with details on your big day. All I really want is to wake up - get pretty, and just be able to enjoy, remember, and look back on how fun the day was as best as I can. Is that too much to ask, RAR! ;)


Wednesday, December 12, 2012

New Socks. Oh, how I love thee...


Hello! I'm alive! Boy - holidays are crazy! I've come into a bunch of freelance design work lately, so it has unfortunately put my blog posting on the back-burner for now. But no fear! I hope to be back up and blogging more consistently through and after the new year! Hope you had a nice break from reading :)

Today I was motivated to do a fun little post because of these awesome socks that I bought. I have this favorite site that I love to check everyday. It's called theClymb - I LOVE the things they post on here. Outdoor-wear and gear in amazing brands I've never heard of at prices I can afford. No, they aren't paying me to shop here or tell you about it. It's just my dirty pleasure. I managed to snag an awesome fleece zip-up for less than $20 a month or so ago.

Most recently I bought some awesome socks. They have great deals every now-and-again. This month they had a free $15 credit. With that bonus, I managed to score 3 pairs of socks I was oogling. That deal tipped me over the edge to purchase and I managed to get them for $12 for 3 pairs including shipping. Totally worth it in my opinion considering these typically run about $10-$20 per pair - Merry Christmas to me! Bonus feature? These socks are made in America AND here in Wisconsin. Who knew!? I love hearing of these brands I've never heard of. And the quality of these is impeccable - Fox River Socks.

It's amazing how good it feels to have new and fun socks. If you are looking for an ideas to add to your Christmas list? I know this year I was struggling. There is nothing I need which I'm so grateful for. Remember when you were a kid and socks were the last thing you would ever want to add to your list? Who knew they bring me so much joy today :)

Hope you are finding joy in your Holiday so far!

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